Love marriage v Arrange marriage?

love only

i wanna try both...phir dekhoon ga which have it's benifits and disadvantages

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Good points made by many,
some of the better ones were the pressure from family and society if engaged in Love marriage.

My thinking is that it is a gamble whether it is Love or arranged.

As pointed out earlier in arranged one many times one side (usually woman) have very little say and keeps the marriage regardless of the quality of the relationship.. same goes if both parties have committed to Love marriage and in real life it is far more difficult then it was when engaged in a fairy love tail before marriage..

So good luck to all of you future brides and dholass!!! may you get the better part of the luck...

Ab meri ba----s khatam and my vote goes to none or to both as long as it survives.....

Shadiii Kay Faiday koi bata saktaaa hai ?

Aur Nuqsaannnnnn??

IS it very Important ?

If it is.........................................

Then wht is the matter of Arrange or Love..............

I think we have to marry for 2 times................

One for Parents........................... 1 - Arrange

One for Ourselves........................ 2 - Love

whether its a love or arrange marriage, it is necessary to make this relation stronger to live a happy and peaceful life...life

Love marriages do not always turn out to be a bed of roses. Then again, arranged marriages turn out to be imprisonment for some.

Who's to say? I'd still chose a love marriage because I would always have the chance to make it work if things went wrong.

Kaka Atom Bum.

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First one should be love, second and last arrange.

	Kaka Atom bum wrote:
	Love marriages do not always turn out to be a bed of roses. Then again, arranged marriages turn out to be imprisonment for some. Who's to say? I'd still chose a love marriage because I would always have the chance to make it work if things went wrong. Kaka Atom Bum.

how is that can u tell us how we make it work if things went wrong?????????????? Rolling Eyes

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Marriage is an INSTITUTION and in an institution you cannot have only two people working...

I would certainly like to get married as soon as possible and I would like to prefer for my parents to arrange it for me and then I will start dating the bride-to-be (obviously with the permission of her parents) if POSSIBLE which I dont think.

Like this she can know me better and I can know her too.. Smile

I have a guy friend and I have a female friend. I know both of them since my childhood. We are a group of friends and we have sticked with each other since our school days. So the girl likes the guy and the guyz parents want him to be married with someone else, so its more like a triangle. He tried to convince his parents many times. Even I also went to convince them but they threw me out.. Smile

When all the hope was lost, we all went to the girlz place and my friend asked her hand in marriage from her parents. They agreed. They both got married, but his parents never came to the wedding cermony and he had to get out of the house Sad

Anyways, they got married. Now both are fighting almost all the time even on small things, but both are still in love and after a big fight, they still laugh and forget everything. Both of them are my friends and both of them share their inner most feelings with us (the group). We are happy for them and sometimes we are also sad for them. Smile

For myself, I would like my parents to arrange someone special for me. Its not a question of whethere I will like it or not. I want someone who will love me for whatever I am. I will not marry a person who I like, but I will marry a person who will like me, but this is a difficult thing to have.

Just wish me luck.. Smile

Regards,

DJ

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djdesi wrote:

Marriage is an INSTITUTION and in an institution you cannot have only two people working...

I would certainly like to get married as soon as possible and I would like to prefer for my parents to arrange it for me and then I will start dating the bride-to-be (obviously with the permission of her parents) if POSSIBLE which I dont think.

Like this she can know me better and I can know her too.. Smile

I have a guy friend and I have a female friend. I know both of them since my childhood. We are a group of friends and we have sticked with each other since our school days. So the girl likes the guy and the guyz parents want him to be married with someone else, so its more like a triangle. He tried to convince his parents many times. Even I also went to convince them but they threw me out.. Smile

When all the hope was lost, we all went to the girlz place and my friend asked her hand in marriage from her parents. They agreed. They both got married, but his parents never came to the wedding cermony and he had to get out of the house Sad

Anyways, they got married. Now both are fighting almost all the time even on small things, but both are still in love and after a big fight, they still laugh and forget everything. Both of them are my friends and both of them share their inner most feelings with us (the group). We are happy for them and sometimes we are also sad for them. Smile

For myself, I would like my parents to arrange someone special for me. Its not a question of whethere I will like it or not. I want someone who will love me for whatever I am. I will not marry a person who I like, but I will marry a person who will like me, but this is a difficult thing to have.

Just wish me luck.. Smile

Regards,

DJ

you r absulotly right on this point we should marry a person who like us not who we like it will be less of pain and u will be happy " i think "

and i will wish u all the luck to find this special girl insha Allah Smile

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Then I am totally awsome.. Wink

and thanx..

Regards,

DJ

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	djdesi wrote:
	Then I am totally awsome.. and thanx.. Regards, DJ

heheheheheheh no dubt Laughing

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loje wrote:

	Kaka Atom bum wrote:
	Love marriages do not always turn out to be a bed of roses. Then again, arranged marriages turn out to be imprisonment for some. Who's to say? I'd still chose a love marriage because I would always have the chance to make it work if things went wrong. Kaka Atom Bum.

how is that can u tell us how we make it work if things went wrong?????????????? Rolling Eyes

Hmm... well you find out about the things you are doing wrong, or the things your partner doesn't like, you remember why you fell in love with him/her the first time and make sacrifices JUST to be with that person.

In an arranged marriage, I don't think the partners feel as strongly. Some do, some don't.

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djdesi wrote:

Marriage is an INSTITUTION and in an institution you cannot have only two people working...

I would certainly like to get married as soon as possible and I would like to prefer for my parents to arrange it for me and then I will start dating the bride-to-be (obviously with the permission of her parents) if POSSIBLE which I dont think.

Like this she can know me better and I can know her too.. Smile

I have a guy friend and I have a female friend. I know both of them since my childhood. We are a group of friends and we have sticked with each other since our school days. So the girl likes the guy and the guyz parents want him to be married with someone else, so its more like a triangle. He tried to convince his parents many times. Even I also went to convince them but they threw me out.. Smile

When all the hope was lost, we all went to the girlz place and my friend asked her hand in marriage from her parents. They agreed. They both got married, but his parents never came to the wedding cermony and he had to get out of the house Sad

Anyways, they got married. Now both are fighting almost all the time even on small things, but both are still in love and after a big fight, they still laugh and forget everything. Both of them are my friends and both of them share their inner most feelings with us (the group). We are happy for them and sometimes we are also sad for them. Smile

For myself, I would like my parents to arrange someone special for me. Its not a question of whethere I will like it or not. I want someone who will love me for whatever I am. I will not marry a person who I like, but I will marry a person who will like me, but this is a difficult thing to have.

Just wish me luck.. Smile

Regards,

DJ

DJ,

Aren't you contradicting your own point? Arranged marriages will not give you love at first sight. It will be more of a situation of 'getting stuck with someone'. Yes, people do fall in love later, but do they have a choice?

If you want someone to love you for who you are and not the way you look, act, or feel about different things, I don't think an arranged marriage is a good way to go. If someone loves you BEFORE getting 'stuck', only then are the chances of them liking you for who you are greater.

KAB.

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Make Love all of your Life,, but when it's about marriage,, Arrange is the best one. atleast you can complain about that. Laughing

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