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que10
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Niether. 
Achee bhali zindagi guzar rahi hai yaar, sukoon say. bila wajah panga not wanted. 
Naa fiqar hai, naa faqaa
Naa kakee hai, naa kaka
Kyoun phanswaoo gay. Rehnay dou.
Shadi is over rated anyways. mien single and happy hi achaa hoon. LOL.
BTW, why are we desi ppl obbsessed with shaadis?????
ya tou khud kar rahay hootay hain, ya kissi ki karwaa rahay hootay hain, if we r doing not either, then kooshish kar rahay hootay hain. I never understood that. |
I did not understand most of what u wrote Q, but i knew you would say niether.
Everyone knows you are allergic to weddings.
Btw, what are so afraid of, You should listen to your family and get hitched now. LOL.
Heck your mom was even complaining to me last week, and that is really sad.  |
sarahj
who is that poor girl that will marry him
i really pray for her
he will gregging her life >>>>>>>>>> (( make's her life misery)) >>> JK  |
Thnaks for the support loje. .
love ya too.
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"You are free- you are free to go to your temples mosques or any other place of worship in this state of Pakistan. You may belong to any religion, caste or creed, THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE BUSINESS OF THE STATE"... Jinnah, Aug 11th 1947. |
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que10
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Niether.
Achee bhali zindagi guzar rahi hai yaar, sukoon say. bila wajah panga not wanted.
Naa fiqar hai, naa faqaa
Naa kakee hai, naa kaka
Kyoun phanswaoo gay. Rehnay dou.
Shadi is over rated anyways. mien single and happy hi achaa hoon. LOL.
BTW, why are we desi ppl obbsessed with shaadis?????
ya tou khud kar rahay hootay hain, ya kissi ki karwaa rahay hootay hain, if we r doing not either, then kooshish kar rahay hootay hain. I never understood that. |
I did not understand most of what u wrote Q, but i knew you would say niether.
Everyone knows you are allergic to weddings.
Btw, what are so afraid of, You should listen to your family and get hitched now. LOL.
Heck your mom was even complaining to me last week, and that is really sad. |
sarahj
who is that poor girl that will marry him
i really pray for her
he will gregging her life >>>>>>>>>> (( make's her life misery)) >>> JK |
You hear that que.... PPl know better now. LOL. j/k darling. Dont kill me when u come back.
He's not That bad Loje, Maybe a pain in the neck but afterall, he's gregging cute.. hehehehe
Glad to know ure part of the gregging group as well LOje..  Welcome to the dark side  |
Yea I hear dat. I see every1's gregging ganging up on me. And you to blame. Wait till i see u, consider ureself DEAD. 
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"You are free- you are free to go to your temples mosques or any other place of worship in this state of Pakistan. You may belong to any religion, caste or creed, THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE BUSINESS OF THE STATE"... Jinnah, Aug 11th 1947. |
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que10
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Niether.
Achee bhali zindagi guzar rahi hai yaar, sukoon say. bila wajah panga not wanted.
Naa fiqar hai, naa faqaa
Naa kakee hai, naa kaka
Kyoun phanswaoo gay. Rehnay dou.
Shadi is over rated anyways. mien single and happy hi achaa hoon. LOL.
BTW, why are we desi ppl obbsessed with shaadis?????
ya tou khud kar rahay hootay hain, ya kissi ki karwaa rahay hootay hain, if we r doing not either, then kooshish kar rahay hootay hain. I never understood that. |
hahah thats so true ...............asal main its the problem with desi women they are all obbessed with talking abot shadi ......khair getting married is about settling down ..........but u know what men most of the times dont like the idea of getting married because its our nature...........
MEN HUNT AND WEMEN NEST .........THAT IS THE MAIN DIFFERENCE .............. |
Thanks 4 the support aimen. Shukar hai kissi nay tou saath dia.
Btw, how was ure weekend? I remember u mentioned u wanted to go watch hancock. Did u? and how was it?
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"You are free- you are free to go to your temples mosques or any other place of worship in this state of Pakistan. You may belong to any religion, caste or creed, THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE BUSINESS OF THE STATE"... Jinnah, Aug 11th 1947. |
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loje
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Niether.
Achee bhali zindagi guzar rahi hai yaar, sukoon say. bila wajah panga not wanted.
Naa fiqar hai, naa faqaa
Naa kakee hai, naa kaka
Kyoun phanswaoo gay. Rehnay dou.
Shadi is over rated anyways. mien single and happy hi achaa hoon. LOL.
BTW, why are we desi ppl obbsessed with shaadis?????
ya tou khud kar rahay hootay hain, ya kissi ki karwaa rahay hootay hain, if we r doing not either, then kooshish kar rahay hootay hain. I never understood that. |
I did not understand most of what u wrote Q, but i knew you would say niether.
Everyone knows you are allergic to weddings.
Btw, what are so afraid of, You should listen to your family and get hitched now. LOL.
Heck your mom was even complaining to me last week, and that is really sad. |
sarahj
who is that poor girl that will marry him
i really pray for her
he will gregging her life >>>>>>>>>> (( make's her life misery)) >>> JK |
Thnaks for the support loje. .
love ya too. |
NO Thanks For Aduty
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mushytail
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kinguhde
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Arranged and then love
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kinguhde
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Its funny when people discuss over "love marriage" and "arranged marriage"
It is like asking a person if he would like to "hang himself" or "shoot himself".
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urfi67
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it certainly depends upon one's choice,,,to get married as climax of love or to attain someone's love as climax of marriage,,,but i think parents should get consent of their children before marriage and both boy and girl should c each other
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fruity_aqua
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ofcourse love marriage....
Love is a flower which turns into fruit at marriage.
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urfi67
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is it neccessary to get married as a climax of love???wat vill u do if ur unable to marry him/her whom u love??????????????
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Riya
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Its funny when people discuss over "love marriage" and "arranged marriage"
It is like asking a person if he would like to "hang himself" or "shoot himself". |
hehehe... its funny !
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que10
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Its funny when people discuss over "love marriage" and "arranged marriage"
It is like asking a person if he would like to "hang himself" or "shoot himself". |
100% right. I could not 've said it better myself. Good job.
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"You are free- you are free to go to your temples mosques or any other place of worship in this state of Pakistan. You may belong to any religion, caste or creed, THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE BUSINESS OF THE STATE"... Jinnah, Aug 11th 1947. |
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kinguhde
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Its funny when people discuss over "love marriage" and "arranged marriage"
It is like asking a person if he would like to "hang himself" or "shoot himself". |
100% right. I could not 've said it better myself. Good job. |
   
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Don't compare yourself with anyone in this world. If you do so, you are insulting yourself.
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pery312
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Love marraige
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pery312
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Why marriage? |
its funny, but there should me marriage
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inayat khan qazi
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Its funny when people discuss over "love marriage" and "arranged marriage"
It is like asking a person if he would like to "hang himself" or "shoot himself". |
hehehe... its funny ! |
It is not funny rather deadly :lol:
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inayat khan qazi
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Why marriage? |
its funny, but there should me marriage |
What do you mean "Why Marriage" where are we from? Marriage is indeed important,it is a religious & social contract.I will just add every thing depend on luck & situation.There are no ideals or ideal situations.Here in the west the couple live together for years afterwards they marry & most of the time it end up on divorce.Which means having understanding or knowing one another too closely (Without social limits) is not important.The most important is when there are mutual feelings,respect & maturity (mentally prepare to get married not like my friend Q10 ).Love is a universal truth but to understand its real meaning is difficult for everyone.If we come across a person which we realy care for,our hearts tuggs on one load,develope understanding (But everything in the limit of our social norms) & the better way is with the consult of our parrents we can marry,there is no harm in it.If there are decent family they do support their children when consulted in a good manners.If we mean that routine,ordinary filmi type of love & marriages,I think is mostly based on passions,frustrations,confusing liking,flirts,affection,cramming to be appreciated etc with love.When Allah have given us rights to chose & marry a person who we like,the hallal way & get the blessings of our parrents,what more do we need.Running after ideals,keeping on experiences & fallen with yourself in love(Which mostly happens) lead towards regrets,"Bahas e Sharmindagi" & waste of the golden years of one life.I support love cum arranged marriage because marriage is also a binding force between two families,when we marry with the coscent of our parrents/family,we make our Allah happy & than the blessings are there.We should respect our religion,Parrents,social norms etc whereas the parrents in the light of the teaching of Islam shoul have realisation & consideration for their children,when they love or like some one.
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que10
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Why marriage? |
its funny, but there should me marriage |
What do you mean "Why Marriage" where are we from? Marriage is indeed important,it is a religious & social contract.I will just add every thing depend on luck & situation.There are no ideals or ideal situations.Here in the west the couple live together for years afterwards they marry & most of the time it end up on divorce.Which means having understanding or knowing one another too closely (Without social limits) is not important.The most important is when there are mutual feelings,respect & maturity (mentally prepare to get married not like my friend Q10 ).Love is a universal truth but to understand its real meaning is difficult for everyone.If we come across a person which we realy care for,our hearts tuggs on one load,develope understanding (But everything in the limit of our social norms) & the better way is with the consult of our parrents we can marry,there is no harm in it.If there are decent family they do support their children when consulted in a good manners.If we mean that routine,ordinary filmi type of love & marriages,I think is mostly based on passions,frustrations,confusing liking,flirts,affection,cramming to be appreciated etc with love.When Allah have given us rights to chose & marry a person who we like,the hallal way & get the blessings of our parrents,what more do we need.Running after ideals,keeping on experiences & fallen with yourself in love(Which mostly happens) lead towards regrets,"Bahas e Sharmindagi" & waste of the golden years of one life.I support love cum arranged marriage because marriage is also a binding force between two families,when we marry with the coscent of our parrents/family,we make our Allah happy & than the blessings are there.We should respect our religion,Parrents,social norms etc whereas the parrents in the light of the teaching of Islam shoul have realisation & consideration for their children,when they love or like some one. |
Innayat bhai, aap nay tou poori kittaab hi likh di yaar. LOL.
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"You are free- you are free to go to your temples mosques or any other place of worship in this state of Pakistan. You may belong to any religion, caste or creed, THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE BUSINESS OF THE STATE"... Jinnah, Aug 11th 1947. |
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fairy552
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Accoding to me this marriage decision should be given to our parents......kyunke zyada dekhne mein aya hai ke arrange marriages r more successful.....or yahan logon ke comments padhne ke baad to lagta hai ke boys r no more interested in shaadi waadi..thts very sad guyss
per mein ek hi baat kahu gi ge shaadi ek aisa laddoo hai jo khata hai wo pachtata hai aur jo nhi khata wo bhi
So kha ke pachtane mein kya harj hai LOL
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inayat khan qazi
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q10, "A word to wise" but it is often difficult to convey the message there4 "kitaab likhni hi parrthi he.Ab aap ki tarrah to hum iss muhaware ke nahi qahil"Ke doodh mille tho ghaye paalne ki kya zaroorat he".We have to discuss according to our belief,culture & customs.
Jheete raho yaar!!!.
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que10
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q10, "A word to wise" but it is often difficult to convey the message there4 "kitaab likhni hi parrthi he.Ab aap ki tarrah to hum iss muhaware ke nahi qahil"Ke doodh mille tho ghaye paalne ki kya zaroorat he".We have to discuss according to our belief,culture & customs.
Jheete raho yaar!!!. |
right on brother. Preach...
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inayat khan qazi
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thanx for permiting me q10,Preaching is still better than breaching,or!!!! Ab tum kaho ge ke:"BAKHSHO BHI BILLI CHUHA LANDORRA HI BALLA"
Be happy  & take care.Waise tho love marriage or arrange marriage ke hilawa bhi khud kashi ke bohat se tareeqe hain.
Joke:A man said to his friend taking a cold sigh:"I am very unlucky in chosing women.One has left me & the other one has remained"
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ahmet2910
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by the way what islam says on this topic
should the boy or girl should know each other before marraiage or not
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Abdul Maajid
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I would prefer arrange marriage
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Qasim Raza
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love but after that parents arrange.
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