Love marriage v Arrange marriage?

vo kehte hain na..

ke khud giro ya koi dhakka de .. girna toh kuein mein hi hai...

kya farak padega....

	arsh brar wrote:
	vo kehte hain na.. ke khud giro ya koi dhakka de .. girna toh kuein mein hi hai... kya farak padega....

hehehe

kiay baat hai Arsh Brar....

Shaadi se itna dar....?

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guys we must follow islamic principles. If we start to follow the methods of others, we will lose our identity. . . . that is if we have one.

Anne wrote:

	arsh brar wrote:
	vo kehte hain na.. ke khud giro ya koi dhakka de .. girna toh kuein mein hi hai... kya farak padega....

hehehe

kiay baat hai Arsh Brar....

Shaadi se itna dar....?

Na Anne .. Everyone has to get married sumday..
(actually life is so simple b4 marriage .. fir shaadi karke aise hi tensions invite karo..)

vaise i think agar karni hi pare toh Arreange marriage will b better...
cz if smthing goes wrong .. atleast we will b able to blame others for the whole thing. Wink

	arsh brar wrote:
	vaise i think agar karni hi pare toh Arreange marriage will b better... cz if smthing goes wrong .. atleast we will b able to blame others for the whole thing.

Kiya plaining hey ...hehehe

Parents koo BLAME karna hey .... Confused

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AlwayzZ
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Arranged but with respect to Islamic values, being fair to the to be bride and groom without pressuring. This is actually thep problem with love before marriage. While it's scary and sometimes unromantic to get married to someone you're not in love with first, a lot of principles are violated and many people find themsevles in vulnerable situations. The principles of dating in the west are not working out. The divorce rates are enormous, nearly 75% divorce rate. How can you find a love marriage unless you check out in the field? It's not fair to each other to try people out and see if you're in love all the while you keep breaking hearts and corrupting society.

Aisha

Arrange merriege is better then love

assalam alaikum all pakistani brothers and sisters
mere khayal me love merriage acha hai...q keh mian bv 1 doosre ko shadi se pehle achi tarah pehchan lete hai
thank u Forum Pakistan
(i proud to be a pakistani)

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aisha7860 wrote:

Arranged but with respect to Islamic values, being fair to the to be bride and groom without pressuring. This is actually thep problem with love before marriage. While it's scary and sometimes unromantic to get married to someone you're not in love with first, a lot of principles are violated and many people find themsevles in vulnerable situations. The principles of dating in the west are not working out. The divorce rates are enormous, nearly 75% divorce rate. How can you find a love marriage unless you check out in the field? It's not fair to each other to try people out and see if you're in love all the while you keep breaking hearts and corrupting society.

Aisha

very true, but would like to add a tiny bit, no where in Islam it says that a marriage should be forced, these days the rituals of asking bride and groom at the time of nikah about their will of getting married has become a formality which is wrong. If a girl or boy is not willing to get married, he/she shouldnt be forced in anyway or by any means. Its the level of illiteracy that our community have especially abroad i-e in UK and America where families force their kids to get marry back home, as long as they are not marrying someone non muslim nothing should be enforced.

I think in Islam there is no concept of love marriage, or an islamic love marriage could be that both bride and groom agree to marry, and love is developed lateron after marriage. I have not seen many love marriages as successful because you expect more from your partner than he/she can give so you end up fighting for your rights.

mai l.m. ke saath un......
kun sath hun?
iake javab me ye kahna chahunga ki jb pudi zindagi saath rahni hai to behatar hai ki ek dusre ko jan liya jaye...............

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doston,
mai vikas hun,aapke pados me rahta hun or aaplogon ke saat aana chahta hun......

	arsh brar wrote:
	vo kehte hain na.. ke khud giro ya koi dhakka de .. girna toh kuein mein hi hai... kya farak padega....

bhai sahab itna dar..........
mere khayal s pakistan forum ko ia post ko sambhal kr rakhna chahiye or jb bhabhee ji aa jayen to unhe ek baar padha dena chahiyeeeee
tb to ........................

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doston,
mai vikas hun,aapke pados me rahta hun or aaplogon ke saat aana chahta hun......

DO HON TU BEHTER HAIN Smile

Mery khiyal may do shadi karo eik love and eik arrange . maza hi maza Laughing

	moon wrote:
	I think arrange marriage is better then love marriage. As in this way parents are also invoved and there will be less chances to break this kind of marriage. One can do love after marriage as well and it can be love long term. I hope you understand. What you think?

u r right ,i agree with ur opnion .arrange marriage has parents support 2 handle critical situations ,love marriages usually ends up live a sweet dream with hard memories

Arranged as not to be confused with 'forced' 'unwilling' or 'blind' marriage.

In a way all 'love marriages' are arranged at some level, you are introduced via your friends or colleagues and then win acceptance of your family & friends before marrying. That is, everyone is a part of it.

Priya

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does not matter v r going 4 love or arrange marriage...but d important thing v hav to love our wife sincerly..love after marriage is better

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aamir

Niether.

Achee bhali zindagi guzar rahi hai yaar, sukoon say. bila wajah panga not wanted. Twisted Evil

Naa fiqar hai, naa faqaa
Naa kakee hai, naa kaka

Kyoun phanswaoo gay. Rehnay dou.

Shadi is over rated anyways. mien single and happy hi achaa hoon. LOL.

BTW, why are we desi ppl obbsessed with shaadis?????

ya tou khud kar rahay hootay hain, ya kissi ki karwaa rahay hootay hain, if we r doing not either, then kooshish kar rahay hootay hain. I never understood that.

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que10 wrote:

Niether.

Achee bhali zindagi guzar rahi hai yaar, sukoon say. bila wajah panga not wanted. Twisted Evil

Naa fiqar hai, naa faqaa
Naa kakee hai, naa kaka

Kyoun phanswaoo gay. Rehnay dou.

Shadi is over rated anyways. mien single and happy hi achaa hoon. LOL.

BTW, why are we desi ppl obbsessed with shaadis?????

ya tou khud kar rahay hootay hain, ya kissi ki karwaa rahay hootay hain, if we r doing not either, then kooshish kar rahay hootay hain. I never understood that.

I did not understand most of what u wrote Q, but i knew you would say niether.
Everyone knows you are allergic to weddings. Razz

Btw, what are so afraid of, You should listen to your family and get hitched now. LOL.
Heck your mom was even complaining to me last week, and that is really sad. Laughing

Under 30’s Love marriages is good, above that arrange marriage is better

sarahj wrote:

que10 wrote:

Niether.

Achee bhali zindagi guzar rahi hai yaar, sukoon say. bila wajah panga not wanted. Twisted Evil

Naa fiqar hai, naa faqaa
Naa kakee hai, naa kaka

Kyoun phanswaoo gay. Rehnay dou.

Shadi is over rated anyways. mien single and happy hi achaa hoon. LOL.

BTW, why are we desi ppl obbsessed with shaadis?????

ya tou khud kar rahay hootay hain, ya kissi ki karwaa rahay hootay hain, if we r doing not either, then kooshish kar rahay hootay hain. I never understood that.

I did not understand most of what u wrote Q, but i knew you would say niether.
Everyone knows you are allergic to weddings. Razz

Btw, what are so afraid of, You should listen to your family and get hitched now. LOL.
Heck your mom was even complaining to me last week, and that is really sad. Laughing

sarahj

who is that poor girl that will marry him Laughing

i really pray for her Laughing

he will gregging her life >>>>>>>>>> (( make's her life misery)) Laughing

>>> JK

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loje wrote:

sarahj wrote:

que10 wrote:

Niether.

Achee bhali zindagi guzar rahi hai yaar, sukoon say. bila wajah panga not wanted. Twisted Evil

Naa fiqar hai, naa faqaa
Naa kakee hai, naa kaka

Kyoun phanswaoo gay. Rehnay dou.

Shadi is over rated anyways. mien single and happy hi achaa hoon. LOL.

BTW, why are we desi ppl obbsessed with shaadis?????

ya tou khud kar rahay hootay hain, ya kissi ki karwaa rahay hootay hain, if we r doing not either, then kooshish kar rahay hootay hain. I never understood that.

I did not understand most of what u wrote Q, but i knew you would say niether.
Everyone knows you are allergic to weddings. Razz

Btw, what are so afraid of, You should listen to your family and get hitched now. LOL.
Heck your mom was even complaining to me last week, and that is really sad. Laughing

sarahj

who is that poor girl that will marry him Laughing

i really pray for her Laughing

he will gregging her life >>>>>>>>>> (( make's her life misery)) Laughing

>>> JK

You hear that que.... PPl know better now. LOL. j/k darling. Dont kill me when u come back.

He's not That bad Loje, Maybe a pain in the neck but afterall, he's gregging cute.. hehehehe

Glad to know ure part of the gregging group as well LOje.. Smile

Welcome to the dark side Wink

Marriage is basically a cealed box with either something good or bad inside..........and you can never find out unless you open that box......i've seen alot of love and arrange marriages going down the drain ........very unsuccessful......so u never know .............and marriage is the other name of compromise and sacrifice so be prepared .....

	aimenqazi wrote:
	Marriage is basically a cealed box with either something good or bad inside..........and you can never find out unless you open that box......i've seen alot of love and arrange marriages going down the drain ........very unsuccessful......so u never know .............and marriage is the other name of compromise and sacrifice so be prepared .....

I know Pakistan is a different culture and thats why i like it, but here, u get to open the box and and take a peek inside before buying it. Razz

que10 wrote:

Niether.

Achee bhali zindagi guzar rahi hai yaar, sukoon say. bila wajah panga not wanted. Twisted Evil

Naa fiqar hai, naa faqaa
Naa kakee hai, naa kaka

Kyoun phanswaoo gay. Rehnay dou.

Shadi is over rated anyways. mien single and happy hi achaa hoon. LOL.

BTW, why are we desi ppl obbsessed with shaadis?????

ya tou khud kar rahay hootay hain, ya kissi ki karwaa rahay hootay hain, if we r doing not either, then kooshish kar rahay hootay hain. I never understood that.

hahah thats so true ...............asal main its the problem with desi women they are all obbessed with talking abot shadi ......khair getting married is about settling down ..........but u know what men most of the times dont like the idea of getting married because its our nature...........

MEN HUNT AND WEMEN NEST .........THAT IS THE MAIN DIFFERENCE ..............

sarahj wrote:

loje wrote:

sarahj wrote:

que10 wrote:

Niether.

Achee bhali zindagi guzar rahi hai yaar, sukoon say. bila wajah panga not wanted. Twisted Evil

Naa fiqar hai, naa faqaa
Naa kakee hai, naa kaka

Kyoun phanswaoo gay. Rehnay dou.

Shadi is over rated anyways. mien single and happy hi achaa hoon. LOL.

BTW, why are we desi ppl obbsessed with shaadis?????

ya tou khud kar rahay hootay hain, ya kissi ki karwaa rahay hootay hain, if we r doing not either, then kooshish kar rahay hootay hain. I never understood that.

I did not understand most of what u wrote Q, but i knew you would say niether.
Everyone knows you are allergic to weddings. Razz

Btw, what are so afraid of, You should listen to your family and get hitched now. LOL.
Heck your mom was even complaining to me last week, and that is really sad. Laughing

sarahj

who is that poor girl that will marry him Laughing

i really pray for her Laughing

he will gregging her life >>>>>>>>>> (( make's her life misery)) Laughing

>>> JK

You hear that que.... PPl know better now. LOL. j/k darling. Dont kill me when u come back.

He's not That bad Loje, Maybe a pain in the neck but afterall, he's gregging cute.. hehehehe

Glad to know ure part of the gregging group as well LOje.. Smile

Welcome to the dark side Wink

is he daring Evil or Very Mad

i will kill him cos i learn some Techniques from ((( Amirecan Gladiator ))) i watch it now Twisted Evil

Alhamdule allah he is fine CG

yeah iam now part of the gregging group

thank u for welcoming me to ur group Wink

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