Don't know it was love for someone or ????

My name is Isha. From Pakistan. Was born in USA but my parents are pakistani. I am the only child and by the grace of god, I have everything I need in my life. I belong to pretty wealthy family. Dad is business man and uncles and aunts are really nice and all are in diffrents states and countries. Only One uncle is in Pakistan and after his wedding, he is gonna move in USA too........ I wanted to share my little love story. Please reply to me. First of all I can understand urdu a litle but not a good urdu speaker.
I have 2 best friends, Samantha(she is Indian) and Mathew(He is pakistani too but was born here) our families know eachother since my parents moved to USA. Today I am 21 years old. Mathew went on his training on January 08, 2007. It was very difficult for me. I was calling Samantha and everytime we had a talk, Mathew was in that talk. It was weird that Samantha told me that Mathew likes me and I know his family always liked me and asked my parents if Isha says yes, we would like our son to marry her but I never thought of that. Mathew never said anything to me but I don't know what was in his mind. He knew my likes, dislikes and evrything and of course he was my childhood/best friend. we grew up togather.
Samantha met a guy by the name Chris nad he was french. He was from france and they got married in May 2008. Mathew cam back from his training and never went back in April 2008. I was so excited to tell him a very important thing. In mid march, my cousin, who is in Austria, emailed me a website to make some online friends. I was checking the site that I met a guy by the name KHURRAM. He said he is from pakistan and is still living there. We became friends and I don't know when I was fallen in love with him and we start chating on yahoo messanger, which I never used before but we gave eachother our person emails and starts chating and writing eachother. After some time, he asked me for my picture and my cell number. I was kind of worried but I just didn't think and gave him my cell number and we start talking on the phone Aand the big mistake that I sent my picture to him too! I was so happy and I told my dad about him. My dad has a problem that he never say "NO" to me. May be I was his only child. He really treats me like a little girl but I am a grown up!
Just so you know that I am still a very obient child to my parents. Although I have pakistani blood in me.
Living in USA was not a big deal but Khurram made it a huge deal. And a huge problem was taking place that Mathew is my boy friend, which I tried to explain it to Khurram but then I figured it out that he was just wasting time with me. He was flirting and I have no words to say, what he thought of Mattew.
When Mathew cam back, I told him about Khurram and I could see that he was not so happy. It made me so angry that I am talking and he was just pretending that he is happy for me but things changed and Khurram said that there is Loadshedding problem in pakistan and then......................
It is so difficult for me to say but after a week he wrote me a sweetest email. I was happy and I believed him and trusted him.
My youngest uncle got married on August 25, 2008 and all the family went to pakistan. we all cousins were so excited and happy to visit the new place becasue that was out first visit to pakistan. I am still in pakistan and it was so much fun shopping and stuff is cheaper then in usa.
Well, I wrote many emails to Khurram and left messages but no reply, Now what would I think! What would I feel about Khurram! Just Nothing!!! He asked me about my flight info and I told him that I will be arriving at the Lahore Airport on August 22, 2008. Wow.. I was very excited and was telling my uncle to look for him too so,.. we can meet eachother. I was really scared to come to pakistan because there is a lot of political stuff going on. and I am safe and fine at my uncle's place.
My dad has always taught me that I should be very patient and should give respect to every single person on the planet.
I don't know Khurram was my love or what? I am 75% sure that Khurram will never contact me again. If he really loves me then maybe I have 25% chances. I don't know! I haven't heard anything from him. This probaby is my last visit to pakistan.
MY STORY TAKES ANOTHER BIG CURVE:
we came to visit my grandparents in some villiage! I have no grandparents! They past away 6 years ago.
All of us(my cousin and me) were wearing jeans! Peope were really nice. There was a guy by the name Atif, who's dad bought my grandparents house, couple years ago. Really good looking. He took my cousin to a farm type thing. I stayed home with me parents and uncles and aunts. Becasue I got sunburn. After I believe 20-30 minutes, he came back and asked me why I was not withmy cousin and I told him I got sunburn and I walked away. Also, he was laughing at my urdu. I asked him what he do and he said he is going to college and studing some thing. Everyone gathered and had diinner and that family was really nice people. They made our beds and the beds were called "charpai". Couldn't sleep but in the morning we woke up, got ready for another trip to village. my parents and all other members of the family wanted to walk around and the family we were staying with was with us. My dad any uncles were keep telling us not to go anywhere with anyone stranger and my 2 cousins did the same thing. Actually I only have 9 cousin(4 girls and 5 boys)! They were walking away with Atif's sisters. Everything went great and a crazy dog just was running after me and my cousin. We were shouting and running as fast as we could. I broke my anckle, when we were runing. My dad yelled at me, when he found out what happened in the evening! Atif was with us and he took us to the doctor, which was 19 minutes far from his town/village. We went home late in the evening. My cousin Sadaf and me were just behind Atif, when we walked in and my dad was just freaked out, when he saw my foot. My mom was not there becasue she went to see her old friends. Second day, Just couldn't sleep becasue of pain and I saw Atif was up too! I saw him looking at me and I pretented that I was asleep. I opened my eyes and called his name. He came and I asked him why he is still awake, it is 1am at night. He didn't say anything and said to me that it was his fault that he left us for sometime to get something and was so sorry. But it was not his fault. I told him, I have 3 dogs and they are really nice dogs. and the dog who was running after was was ugly and crazy! He had a smile on his face and then we were talking until 2am and Then I went to sleep. I woke up late the next day aroung 10am and every except my dad and Atif had their breakfast. I always eat breakfast with my dad, if I am with him. So,.. I woke up, washed my face, brush my teeth and had a heavy breakfast. I was not able to walk so, I stayed home and I got a call from Mathew, my best friend. I was in my pajama's and my dad asked atif's dad if we can arrange something, where I can find a place to sit and somthing. Atif said to my dad, He had a cycle, he can ride and I can sit with him. My dad was not so confortable with that but after some while he said okay. Just make sure, that Isha (Me) don't make YOU(ATIF) go anywhere, she want but my dad was with us all the time.
My cousin Sadaf said to me Isha I think Atif likes you. Bcoz he is always around you and did you see how is so worried about you. And we start laughing. Atif has 2 sisters and 1 brother. He was the 3rd in family and had one youger sister, who is 18+ not sure! In the afternoon, I told atif about Khurram and he said nothing. He was listening to me and I was keep talking and talking. At the end he said, I have nevr liked a girl but you. I looked in his eyes and There I see my dad coming. Sadaf was with me, which was really nice. And my dad as always start talking to him and they both walked away! He looked behing 2 times and I don't know!!! I didn't say anything to anyone! Went home and was in bed around 7pm. When we were eating Dinner, Atif was right in front of me sitting right next to his dad and I was sitting with my dad and on the otherside was my Sadaf. I was never close to my mom. But I love my mom to death. I looked at my dad and then at Atif. and then start eating my dinner. The food Atif's mom made was spicy and hot, So, I couldn't eat much. Had some white rice and water and told Sadaf and take me to bed. Me and Sadaf went in the room and after some time, Atif came to the room and said if he could talk to me in private. Sadaf was about to leave and I said no. And he left the room! Around 11:115pm he came again and I was in room by my self, He was sitting far from me and he said, I really like you and I have no comments for you about Khurram. He has never contact you and If you love someone from your heart, they are always with you. And I feel the same way for you. I want to be with you. And I just said, I have to think about that. I need some time. and he left a really beautiful braclet on the table. I had this braclet 1 day ago and still thinking about him.
I am still thinking, If Khurram is my choice of Mathew or Atif? We are leaving this place on Thursday next week. Until my ankle gets better.
Now I leave my choice to my dad, If he like Atif or someone else, I don't care! As long as he is educated, nice and respect me and my feelings!

I have never seen Khurram. MATHEW no way bcoz he is my best friend. Atif, Maybe or may not! I don't want to talk to my dad and
mom to ruin everyone els' vacation. So, I thought I should ask someone who has in love with a stranger, what would you do?

It's a reall story of my life and I need someone's suggestion! What should I do! Should I say no to Atif or what! I have not lived in that placed before and it is fun to visit but not to live! If I say Yes to Atif, will he leave his family and come with me to USA? I can't sleep and I'm keep think what should I do. Sadaf is encourging Atif to be with me all the time but now it is getting weird. Why don't he ask Sadaf to go out with him! Why me! I am already broken heart from Khurram. Now how can I trust and love someone else! What should I do!

Any Suggestions!!!!

YOU

at Forum Pakistan

As I understand from your wrote that Mathew is only your friend and you share all your feeling about yourself but you not feel anything in your heart or mind that like in love.
Your feeling about Khurram that I feel is near love at your side but I cannot give any comments about Khurram because you say that I figured it out that he was just wasting time with me. He was flirting. This is your answer also.
As a pakaistani I know our young generation that it is not possible a man studying in college and not say “I love to more 3 or 4 girls”. It is the fashion of boys to cheat & flirt
With girls today in Pakistan.
I suggest for you that wait while you come in position that when you know what’s the true love. And you believe at any person again in your heart and brain. It is your correct decision that “Now I leave my choice to my dad” because they have a lot of experience about life.

If you want more Suggestions then call to the girls famous FM103 Karachi DJ Saher Lodhi that perform a show after 10pm.
You listen his Show both on FM Radio and Internet.

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Thank you so much for your reply. I'll never gonna take my life story to any radio or something. I don't know!
But I think I'm gonna talk to my dad today. My mom gets really mad and just do whatever she wants to but My dad is the best and I think I should talk to him before I continue the story......

	Ishagirl wrote:
	Thank you so much for your reply. I'll never gonna take my life story to any radio or something. I don't know! But I think I'm gonna talk to my dad today. My mom gets really mad and just do whatever she wants to but My dad is the best and I think I should talk to him before I continue the story......

Now you are taking right decision because your parents are only that Love you truly. And you’re their only wealth & most precious in whole world.
I could not say that you told your story at Radio. I told you that DJ Saher Lodhi is the Person that helps you to take decision. And you talk with off air, not on air. Other thing that Saher Lodhi talks only realistic topics only .

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let ur parents to decide abt ur marriage as only they can take the best decision

first of all thanks for sharing your problem
I don't have enough experience of life i just want to say one thing never take any decision when you are emotional.i would say you you to discus your problem with your dad he will really tell you what is the best for you bcoz he is the one who loves you more than evrybody and one thing more please don't take any decision with out advice of your dad and mother.

please about these questions:

do you like Atif?
you met him you know his parents you spent some of your time with him.your dad knows them.what you really think about him?do have any kind of feeling about him?
about Khurram i dont say that he is bad but in pakistan most of the guys they use internet to flirt to play with other i never mean that he is like this but am talkinng about majority am pakistan too but since two years am away from pakistan and i learned a lot from the life.

May Allah bless you and give the best partner!
whishing you the best!
i think you are really nice and good hearted girli dont want to ahppen some thing unfair with you.

i wish the best for you may God keep you happy and smiling for ever!

Mathew, Us born Pakistani. nice!! Smile

Thank you for your response! It really helps me! I'm gonna write all about the past weekend!

b]September 02, 2008 08:56pm[/b]

As I said above that I broke my ankle last week, On Saturday afternoon, my dad couldn't stop thinking that why it is so painful, even If was taking medicine. So,.. My dad decided to take me to the hospital. My parents, my uncle and Atif's older brother went with us to the hospital and we directly went to Emergency, which was odd but my dad, no one wants to argue with him, bcoz he will give any chance to others to talk. We went in and the doctor did all the xrays and stuff like that and he said the ankle is not broken, I had twisted my ankle and it was swallon,so..that's why it was hurting bad and on top of that a big plaster. The doctor said to put some ice on it and I should be able to walk. I was so mad that why would someone/any doctor can put plaster on without taking any xrays. But by the next day, I was able to walk by my self. Thanks to the doc.
On sunday, Woke up fresh, had breakfast with all other family members. We've been eating really heavy breakfast for last couple of days. And we were not even hungry for lunch.
Everyone in the family was so glad that I was doing great. And then we decided to stay until coming Sunday. Every one was so happy and wanted to stay in the village for some more days, but we all(my cousins) we were ready to go back.
Atif is really happy that we were staying little longer. Except his parents, all the kids in family had education.
My older uncle and my parents decided to have kind of a get togather yesteday. I was fun. Most of the families, we don't know, came and believe me they were staring at us like we came from a differnt world. It was oakward but there was nothing we could do. On top of that, we were bad urdu and Bunjabi speakers. Sorry but couldn't help.
Atif's mom's sisters daughter(atif's cousin) Saima,was really nice and emotional girl. When Atif's sister introduce her to us, she start talking about Atif and it sounded like she really likes him. and I heard that usually cousins get married in Pakistan. And she was pretty sure that Atif loves him and they will get married soon. We all looked at each other and one of my cousin said, why do u want to marry your cousin. Is it legal?
She said: of course it is. You American people would not understand. You all are born in America but you have Pakistani blood in you and you people can't love anyone. I know one person who got married to american girl for residency/green card and she kicked him out! I hate those people.
We didn't say anything to her and we have no idea what to say but my new aunt, who got married a week ago, she said everyone is not the same.
I asked Saima(Atif cousin): So,.. Do you know if he loves you or not?
Siama: I don't know but he is always nice to everyone and...(she was quite)
I asked her again: do you know if loves you or not? Did he ever say anything to you?
She said NO!
Atif is a really nice guy, I was shocked that he is a really good looking guy. He wants everyone to be happy. and is very open to everyone.
Atif came, He said I was looking really nice in salwar kameez, 3 times. And his cousin saima, gave him a dirty look(she was getting mad) I was wearing the braclet he gave me.
I have accepted Atif's friendship but I still don't know what should I say about the other thing he was asking about.
Saima: Atif, how are you? I was jst telling your american friends that...(She didn't finish her sentence and she smiled and walked away)
Which was even more strange..
Atif: Ohh I know she likes me but I like someone else and I always wanted to tell her that I don't want to marry you and we can be good friends and she don't understand.
I said to him, it's not a big thing to us. and one of my other cousin said: We don't care whom you marry to.
Atif said, not big thing to u all???????? I'm just talking about you Isha?
My cousins(Boys) love to party around, glad they were not around us, otherwise they are alwayz ready to tease me!
I was quite for a while and then I looked at him and said: I Hope you are not pretending to like me to get a green card o american residency? He felt really bad that I said that infront of my cousin Sadaf!
Atif was really upset after that: I was thinking about his cousin's Saima. She almost insulted us.
I didn't see him for a while, then he came back and said, Can I please talk to you and Saima in private. I rolled my eyes and said okay.
He said can we talk now? We went upstairs on a roof. Saima said to Atif so,. why do you want to talk to us. I know what you wanted to say. I was standing and was listening to there conversation, He said, Saima why don't you understand that I never loved you. I like someones else. And I like her (He pointed towards me). I can't believe you said that... She is with you only a week ago and I'm alwayz here for you and she start crying. I thought, she was gonna kill me at that time: I said, to Saima, I'm sorry, it is not my fault. I know I am a little differnt from you but I'm a girl and I know when someone hurt you. Then Atif: said, I really want to be with you and you said earlier that If I love you bcoz of your american residency, it is not true. And I know Saima like to talk to others and make them more suspicious/. I don't want to go to america like this. I want to be someone and then do my business there. I don't want to live my whole life, away from my love ones.And " I am out of English" Which made me laugh but I said sorry to him and Saima but but still don't know!! Saima was really angry and sad.
Everyone was having a great time except Saima. I felt really bad.
Everyone was up late, I think until 2:00am or so. Atif's older brother and his wife came to us and said, atif can't stop talking about you all. And also, he love to talk about you Isha.
On Sunday afternoon, there was no power, and my uncles and aunt's decided to go out and sit under some tree shadow, we all cousins, went to the palce , when kids were playing in water, We were in our shorts, We spent 3 & 1/2 hours palying in water. It was so much fun. The water was for farms/fields? I guess.
Atif's sister was wearing her TRADITIONAL cloths and had that shawl type thing on her head the whole time.
Atif is so much fun! I like him. He respects you. He has no negative thought about anyone. And I can see love in his eyes for me!
There was a man, who was making like a ice ball and he poured some kind of flavor on it, It was good but Not Healthy! It was about 4:17pm, My cousin said, Atif-Why don't we rent a car and we should go somewhere! He said, If I'm driving, then we sure can! Are we all gonna go or just....
My cousin said: No we all are gonna go! It's gonna be fun! We don't know where we are going but hopfully somewhere beautiful.

On Monday, everyone woke up late. I called Mathew and told him how much fun we are having here. We spoke for about 20 minutes. I didn't see Atif until the evening. I couldn't ask anyone, where he went but time just went by and he was with his some friends from the village. And When I asked him, where he was and he said, he was busy. He smiled and I didn't ask him anything else.
Then Atif said, I just wanted to see, if you were waiting for me or not! and you were! They way you asked me "where were you?"
I said well, yeah! (I couldn't think of anything else) We were planning to go shopping and are you trying to ruin are plans. Only me and we 4 people are gonna go shopping. Do you mind taking us. My dad said fine, we sure can go but just be very careful!!! Make sure you stay away from crowed area's and we went shopping with Atif.
Atif said: Yes, I can take you all but please be patient and don't argue with anyone there.
It was a quick plan but glad it worked for me! So, got ready to go shopping but bcoz of Ramadan, we couldn't eat anything. Which really didn't matter to us.
2 Boys(one was my cousin) and 3 girl went to shopping. In USA people carry there own stuff! own shopping bags! But I got lucky and I didn't have to carry any. Everytime, It was a out door mall kind of? I was holding something Atif said, not to worry, I'll carry that/. We spent a lot money on some cool stuff. WE came back after 5 hours. My cousin took his cell phone with him, we all thought that Sadaf's dad or my dad definately will call but they never did. I was really quite the whole time, when we came back I went to my dad and sat with him for a long time until we had our dinner. My mom was taking a nap.
I felt that maybe Atif is thinking that I love him that's why I was happy with him. I told my dad about Atif on yesterday(monday) night! And my dad said " As long as the person is educated, loving, gives you respect and will never change for you and be with my little angle, ALWAYS." My dad said: I didn't say anything when you were talking to Khurram but Now I want you to forget him. You are my little girl and I don't want to see tears in your eyes. Never. and I love you!
My dad said, I don't understand that why I was never and still you are not close to your mom, but thankyou for being a obedient girl. I had tears in my eyes and I gave a hug to my dad. And I said I love you dad, you are best!
My dad listens to me! He talks to me! He never yell at me when I'm wrong, He corrects me! People say, when kids grow up in a different country, they don't really care about their parents and some kids don't give respect and I am so proud of you!
Just before Dinner, Atif came to tell us that the dinner is ready, My dad said to Atif: Thank you for taking my daughter for shopping and everything you did for her. Atif is scarred of my dad. Don't know why but he said, My dad scares him. He replied to my dad and said, It was my job! Food is ready, I'm am going to tell everyone too! When he was walking out, I said thankyou, he turned around smiled and walked outside. I woke my mom up, we went to have dinner. It was super duper spicy! We ate it but then had a lot of water after that. I felt sad for Saima. I still think that I am taking Atif away from her. I wanted to talk to her. She was 2 blocks/streets away from her house, I asked my dad, if we can go visit Saima's family. Sadaf, my cousin said to me, are you crazy, What if she yells at you or say anything mean. I told her, I hope she won't!!
It was 9:30pm, I went to her house, My younger uncle, his wife, me , mom, dad, my middle uncle and his wife went to Saima's house. She was in doing dishes. I went and sat with her. She said Hi and how is everything? I told her fine and how are you?
Saima: I'm fine too! What would happen to me?
Me(Isha): I'm sorry about Sunday Night! It was harsh
Saima: Not for you mis Isha. You came to visit this place, and you are taking my everything! The person I always loved. (huh)
Me(Isha): I'm sorry, I can't do anything about it. I don't know If I love him or not! You were right, we american people don't understand. I came to visit this place but what am I doing?
Saima:He use to come over to see my brother almost everyday but since you have come, he is never here!!!
Me(Isha): Well, I didn't say him not to visit at your place. You are his cousin. He should visit you more then spending alot of time with us. I didn't mean to break anyone's heart. But I don't promise if he will be getting married to you or not!
Saima: I don't want him to marry me, he loves you! Please forgive me and I don't want to talk about that anymore. hmmmm. I grew up here, don't know anything about your culture, so,.. what do you do? I did my Half of my college and never went back again!
Me(Isha): I'm sorry(I said it again) and I am a Junior at university/College, doing Business Managment as a major and IS as a minor and I work once a week in Sales office to get some traing. Hang out with friends on weeksnds mostly. Have three dogs and I asked her, what about you.
Saima: Use to think of someone(Atif) and stay home and sometimes go out in farm with friends! Very simple life!
Me(Isha): Nice! I think I should go now! It is late and hope you'll forgive me.
Saima: no no, don't say that! That was luck!
Me(Isha): Thank you and Good Night!
After chat with Saima, I felt much better but still guilty. We sat with their family and came back home.
We were watching tv and the power went out. It was really dark. No one was sleepy, so we all went to the roof. It was nice weather. Everyone is just chit chatting. Atif came to the roof and he sat right next to me. I got up and went to get my dad's Phone, so I could call Mathew! I called him and we talked but for some reason I couldn't hear him, so,.. I had to let it go and sat down with my cousins, Atif was sitting there too! It was dark but atleast we were able to see who was who? There was little light thing, they had, which was on until the power came back. It was hard to go to sleep in really dark room.
Very Childish, but I was eating Fishy jello's. I poured that on my hand and I offered everyone(Only kids) and Atif Grabed my hand, I tried to stay away from him, as much as I could. He would not let me move my hand. My aunt said, are you doing okay. and I was like Yeah I'm fine! He was stairing at me and my face was turning red like tomato! I wishpered, Let me go! He said No, first tell me you love me! I looked at him and he start telling jokes! all of us were laughing. They though, he was the coolest person AT THAT POINT.
After trying 3-4 times, I yelled and said "Dad" "Dad" and then he wishpered, one day you'll say that you love me! My dad said, are you doing okay. What's wrong! I said Ohh nothing, I thought there was a spinder on me hand! Just so.. nothing!!! My uncle said: those kids! Scared of spiders!
Atif said to my cousin Sadaf: Do you think, I looklike spider, She laughed so hard! I rolled my eyes and start talking to people around me! Finally the power came back but we were still gonna finish the movie! and went to sleep! Don't know what will happen next week but I hope I'll have fun! Have only until Sunday! Which we can't wait! We sure want to come back to Islamabad!
I will write on Monday now! Coz that would be the end of our village visit and I want my parents to decide weather I should say yes to Atif or What???
I am so glad that I have posted my real story online! I got great response!

	kamranonline wrote:
	Mathew, Us born Pakistani. nice!!

Yeah!

sajidamir wrote:

first of all thanks for sharing your problem
I don't have enough experience of life i just want to say one thing never take any decision when you are emotional.i would say you you to discus your problem with your dad he will really tell you what is the best for you bcoz he is the one who loves you more than evrybody and one thing more please don't take any decision with out advice of your dad and mother.

please about these questions:

do you like Atif?
you met him you know his parents you spent some of your time with him.your dad knows them.what you really think about him?do have any kind of feeling about him?
about Khurram i dont say that he is bad but in pakistan most of the guys they use internet to flirt to play with other i never mean that he is like this but am talkinng about majority am pakistan too but since two years am away from pakistan and i learned a lot from the life.

May Allah bless you and give the best partner!
whishing you the best!
i think you are really nice and good hearted girli dont want to ahppen some thing unfair with you.

i wish the best for you may God keep you happy and smiling for ever!

Thank you! I think I do like him! Confused

	Ishagirl wrote:
	September 02, 2008 08:56pm

Thanks 4 sharing Ur Reallife story with us

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